People are so quick to tell you what it is you NEED to do, SHOULD do or DON’T do when you’re a parent. I can name a gazillion things I prefer NOT to do or just plain don’t want to do as a mom. Here’s a short list:
1) …Hound my kids to clean their plates. I just do not believe in this philosophy, not even if there’s dessert sitting in front of them to make them do it. I wasn’t raised this way and I don’t think it’s a good way to make your kids eat their food. I make my kids eat a certain amount of bites of each thing before they are allowed to get up.
2) …Make them eat the meal I’ve fixed. At our house you have 2 choices: the meal in front of you or a PB&J. Either way is a win win in my book. Sure beats becoming a short order cook for 4 kids.
3) …Freak out every time they make a mess. I know other moms who absolutely freak.out. when their kid makes a mess. Is the world going to end just because your kid spilled milk on the kitchen floor? No, absolutely not. And all you would have done is stressed yourself out for nothing.
4) …Bathe my kids every.single.night. Nope, ain’t happening. Especially during the winter when they don’t really get dirty and rarely go outside. During the summer it’s a little trickier, especially on those days when they’ve been playing outside. Most of the time I’ll break out the waterhose or sprinkler and let them play before bedtime. Works for me!
5) …Freak out about every little thing they put in their mouths. Foodwise, that is. No, I don’t. I have learned to believe that everything in moderation is ok, yes, even a little food dye here and there. I refuse to follow someone else’s philosophies and I choose what works best for our family.
6) …Put away every single piece of my kids clothes. Come on, seriously? I have 4 kids, there’s no way that would ever happen. It’s bad enough I have to wash 2 loads of clothes daily, I refuse to put all of them away. :0) I have a basket in the closet that my 2 youngest daughters share and all of their play clothes go in there. When they were younger, they would empty their drawers on a regular basis, this just helped eliminate that problem. Do kids clothes HAVE to be folded, hung up or even put away? No, they don’t. As long as you can find what you need when you need it and they’re clean, it’s all good in my book.
Do all of these things make me a bad mom? No, not even close. I am a damn good mom and just feel that some things aren’t worth the effort in the big scheme of things. There are better things to spend my time on, like taking my kids to the pool one last time before school starts…..later peeps. 🙂